Affirming Nurses Quotes 031914

NursingThey may forget your name, but they will never forget how you made them feel.

– Maya Angelou

“Constant attention by a good nurse may be just as important as a major operation by a surgeon.”

– Dag Hammarskjold

“Nurses may not be angels, but they are the next best thing.”

– Anonymous Patient

“The character of a nurse is just as important as the knowledge he/she possesses.

-Carolyn Jarvis

“The trained nurse has become one of the great blessings of humanity, taking a place beside the physician and the priest.”

– William Osler, MD

“To make a difference in someone’s life, you don’t have to be brilliant, rich, beautiful or perfect. You just have to care.”

-Mandy Hale

“To do what nobody else will do, a way that nobody else can do, in spite of all we go through; is to be a nurse.”

– Rawsi Williams

“It is not how much we do – it is how much love we put into the doing.”

– Mother Teresa

When I think about all the patients and their loved ones that I have worked with over the years, I know most of them don’t remember me nor I them, but I do know that I gave a little piece of myself to each of them and they to me and those threads make up the beautiful tapestry in my mind that is my career in nursing.”

-Donna Wilk Cardillo


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A Quick Blurb about Marci Shimoff’s book “Happy for No Reason” –by Kelley

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Happiness for any reason is just another form of misery”- The Upanishads

They say that the pursuit of happiness is the underlying drive of everything we do.  When we pick up even the tiniest scent of happiness, we immediately chase wildly after it. When we find it, we relish it. We indulge in it. We feel it.

Feeling happy is a grand experience.

But, feeling happy and being happy are two different things.

I realized this one day when I noticed that if I was not around my family (who bring me happiness) or doing some fun or exhilarating activity (that generates happiness), I was utterly sad. When I was alone and just doing nothing my true inner feelings bubbled to the surface.

I was not happy inside at all.

This was the beginning of my happiness journey (my most recent one at least).

  • I prayed about happiness daily.
  • I started journal writing daily.
  • I started devouring any book on happiness and positivity I could find. I read several within a months’ time.

And then I found Happy for No Reason, 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out by Marci Shimoff.

This book absolutely changed my life. I am so grateful that I bumped into it during one of my half-sleep Amazon searches (hey, Amazon Prime is an addictive force).

According to Marci Shimoff (2008), being happy for no reason is “a neurophysiological state of peace and well-being that isn’t dependent on external circumstances.” And “when you are Happy for No Reason, you bring happiness to your outer experiences rather than trying to extract happiness from them.”

Marci’s book does an amazing job of explaining how searching for happiness is okay, but learning how to resonate happiness from within will bring you peace, joy, and harmony.

On her website (http://www.happyfornoreason.com/Products/HappyBook),  she states that

      “Studies show that each of us has a “happiness set-point” — a fixed range of happiness we tend to return to throughout our life — that’s approximately 50 percent genetic and 50 percent learned. In the same way you’d crank up the thermostat to get comfortable on a chilly day, you can actually raise your happiness set-point! The holistic 7-step program at the heart of Happy for No Reason encompasses Happiness Habits for all areas of life: personal power, mind, heart, body, soul, purpose, and relationships.”

Here is a video that she posted that is very very helpful in understanding the happy for no reason concept:

I hope you are able to derive as much meaning and happiness from this book as I have. I recommend it to anyone who has ever felt like something is just missing.

For anyone who has already read this book, please comment with your thoughts. I’d love to hear your story.

-Kelley

 © Kelley Daniel, http://www.missingmarkers.com, 2014

Affirming Happiness Quotes 031814

happiness-1“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
Abraham Lincoln

“Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”
Marthe Troly-Curtin, Phrynette Married

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
Mahatma Gandhi

“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears.”
John Lennon

“No medicine cures what happiness cannot.”
Gabriel Garcí­a Márquez

Table for 4… (dealing with anxiety)

Me: “Table for 4 please. But, can you please remove 1 chair?

I have yet to encounter a restaurant that understands this request.

They usually say “oh do you need a high chair?”

Even though Dinah is sitting right beside us.  In her wheelchair.

I would assume that it would be common sense to remove a chair so that the wheelchair can fit at the table.

But, my assumptions are probably jaded.

Family outings in any closed environment can be quite a production for us.  On one side of the table 2 ½ yr old Kay is dropping crayons on the floor, requesting fallen crayons be immediately rescued, playing in her food, opening sugar packets, and talking nonstop. On the other side of the table Dinah is very excited, loudly squealing her excitement (she loves food), banging the table with her non-spastic hand, and yelling when we do not feed her quick enough.

We are used to this.  It is our normal.

But, it is not normal for most people.

Usually we get several different responses in one sitting.

The elderly couple that keeps giving us a knowing sympathetic look.  Sometimes if they are in earshot they will say things like

“Well aren’t they just darling?”

“You all have your hands full!”

Then there are the younger people who occasionally look at us with pure undisguised irritation. It’s worst if they are there on a date. (Which hey, I can understand…kid noises do nothing for a romantic ambiance).

Then there are the outright rude people who just constantly stare.  Kind of with disgust. Kind of with intrigue. This is my least favorite response.

I usually give back uneasy apologetic smiles when I can. To everyone.

Meanwhile, I am trying to co-manage the unorganized chaos, make sure the kids both get most of their food in their belly, keep myself from having a negative moment, and still have pieces of conversation with my husband.

The worst thing that can happen is Dinah needing to have her diaper changed. That can be a HUGE dilemma if we are not close to home. Public bathroom diaper tables just are not designed to accommodate a 7 year old.

These are things that just are.

Kaylin will get older. She will stop requesting crayons at some point. She will be able to sit quietly.  This is just the toddler phase. That is uplifting.

Unfortunately, I find myself grasping at straws when I try to have this same type of uplifting glance of the future concerning Dinah.

I start to sweat thinking of her being heavier and taller. Harder to lift. More awkward to transfer to and from her wheelchair.

Eventually we will need a wheelchair-accessible van.  Which is a tough pill to swallow considering that I don’t even like minivans.

But ya know…this is that living in the moment stuff I talk about so often.

Last year I started having some serious anxiety issues after Dinah became too heavy for me to comfortably lift. I started having a horrible dread of the future.  I started to wallow in self-pity.

I spiraled down to having panic attacks on a weekly basis and ending up in the emergency department (which is very embarrassing when you are also an emergency dept RN).

This form of anxiety was completely new to me. It was by far the ABSOLUTE WORST feeling I had ever encountered.

It took lots of prayer, changes in my diet, and most importantly, CHANGES IN THE WAY I COPE AND THINK to overcome the A monster.

I finally realized that this is my life. No matter what the circumstances, it is my life. And I had to learn how to cope with it.

Eventually I overcame the pride that was holding me back and started going to a trauma therapist (I still do not know why there is such a stigma with seeking therapy when you clearly need it!).

She saw very quickly that I had a truckload of anxiety due to my dysfunctional coping skills.

The first thing she taught me was to live in the moment.  To be present here. Right now. And just breathe.

I could write a book about my experience with panic and anxiety. But, at this moment I want to encourage anyone dealing with those issues to see their medical provider right away and also look into therapy.

Anxiety almost always has a root cause.  It could be physical (like electrolyte imbalances or even serious issues like a pulmonary embolism) or emotional (like bottled up stress or a history of trauma).  But, it is not ever normal and you should not have to live with it.

Anxiety and chronic stress go hand and hand. And more and more research is indicating that chronic stress is a precursor to every disease ever known to man.

You can overcome anxiety as I did.  I still have my moments occasionally, but they are not anything compared to the panic attacks I was having before.

Do not put it off. Get help today.

Life is so much sweeter when you are not living in fear.

-Kelley

 © Kelley Daniel, http://www.missingmarkers.com, 2014

Purpose Road

“The purpose of life is a life of purpose.” -Robert Bryne

 

I sat down at my laptop today as soon as I put Dinah on her school bus.

I sat. I waited.

Waiting for a topic, any topic, to come to me that I could write about.

I sat and I waited some more.

Then I just decided to write.

And this is what came out of me:

I have spent my entire life waiting for some flag from the universe. A loud or even soft voice to speak back to me when I am praying.  A directional word from someone else.  Some big marker floating through the sky that says “do __________ with your life.”

I waited.

I was always the screaming independent yet highly co-dependent type.  Bold enough to venture to the crest of the ocean, but too timid to go into the water alone.

I waited.

I always needed confirmation from others that I was on the right track. Running backwards often to get a nod of approval from them.

Going backwards is often worse than waiting.

You see, we were all created with purpose.  Yet our purpose is not a tangible item that is handed to us with our birth certificate when we are born.  Its not written on our high school diploma either.

I believe that our purpose is discovered while we are busy living purposefully.

This simply means that I cannot sit and wait, and wait, and wait, and wait, and expect my purpose to fall from the sky (although stranger things have happened). I have to live, and give, and do, and go, and be, and see, and love, and rise above to discover what my purpose of living, giving, doing, going, seeing, loving, and rising above is.

I believe that this is why God is always so silent when I ask about my purpose.  Wise parents know that sometimes it is better to let their child discover answers on their own.  Especially when the answer is lying right there.

So, I am not waiting anymore.

I am seizing the moment to live purposely…… in THIS moment.

And I am happy to report that my purpose is materializing piece by piece right before my bewildered eyes.

Yeah, I’m kind of amazed at how this is all playing out.

Live, give, do, go, be, see, love, and rise above today!

“The purpose of life is a life of purpose.” -Robert Bryne

-Kelley

© Kelley Daniel, http://www.missingmarkers.com, 2014